l o v e o r m a r r i a g e
forever.
fiction or reality?
i've come to the conclusion that i'll probably never get married.*
for whatever reason, the idea of marriage has recently engrossed my mind. i have a couple of friends that entered engagements and the idea of tying the knot sparked my curiosity.
i'm a single guy.
i'm not dating, i'm not planning on getting into a serious relationship, nor, after my many recent adventures, do i have the funds to wine and dine a girl.
so, why the hell have i spent so much time thinking about marriage?
i think it stems from my living environment. connor (best described as: "my roommate" - since we literally sleep 3 feet from each other on adjacent couches), bryan (best described as: the lovable competitive younger brother), and i make up a pretty interesting think tank. we tend to discuss all sorts of topics ranging from movie ideas, travel plans, philosophy, to religion. we all share a common fear of waking up one day and being trapped in the typical 9-5, with two kids, a mediocre marriage, and maybe some cats.
this concern fueled my journey to better understand marriage and relationships.
don't get me wrong, i get it.
man loves woman, man proposes to woman, man and woman get married... then what?
some people may say, "they'll live happily ever after," some statisticians say, "50% of them will be end up in divorce," and i say, "they'll change."
(i'm right)
the trick is to love the person you know and expect this person to change, because they will. love can't be forced, so don't force it. it will thrive if it's supposed to and it will fail if it has to, either way i don't think marriage can make two people invincible to falling out of love. marriage, if anything, may be the biggest deterrent to honestly evaluating a relationship that has failed. it saddens me to think that there are couples out there that remain married regardless of their struggles.
relationships may result in pure happiness or complete heartache and with each marriage there is always a possibility of failure/divorce. marriage makes people think that they're supposed to be together forever, which in some cases is true.
however, when a relationship fails there are two choices:
1) maintain the marriage and suffer through a loveless relationship
2) divorce and move on
i guess this is where i bring it all together and offer a moral of the story, so here it is:
two people that are in love will be in love regardless of if they're married or not.
two people may be married, even if they're not in love.
and
marriage is flawed because forever is a long time and people will change.
*i battled the idea of including "probably" in the introductory sentence. at first, it was omitted, then i added it, then it was deleted. i can't be certain about my future, so "probably" was a final edit that may cover my ass if/when i ever get married.
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you already know.bombay bicycle club
this song makes me think of the dichotomy of love.
good friends often have potential of being something more, but they tend to restrain from acting on such feelings. in the same regard, longtime loves may hit a rough patch that is the beginning of the end.
bombay bicycle club wrote a beautiful song with simplistic, but thoughtful lyrics. my perspective on relationships is ever changing and when i listen to you already know i can't help but consider my previous infatuations and relationship hardships.
the band gained critical acclaim and support when they were entered into virgin mobile's "road to v" competition on channel 4, in london. they ended up winning the nationally televised competition and made some waves in the european music industry with two very successful eps. in 2008, the band graduated from college and were finally able to focus their attention on their music. i have yet to listen to their 2009 album, i had the blues but i shook them loose, but if it's anything like their eps and singles... i'm sure i'll be impressed.
fiction or reality?
i've come to the conclusion that i'll probably never get married.*
for whatever reason, the idea of marriage has recently engrossed my mind. i have a couple of friends that entered engagements and the idea of tying the knot sparked my curiosity.
i'm a single guy.
i'm not dating, i'm not planning on getting into a serious relationship, nor, after my many recent adventures, do i have the funds to wine and dine a girl.
so, why the hell have i spent so much time thinking about marriage?
i think it stems from my living environment. connor (best described as: "my roommate" - since we literally sleep 3 feet from each other on adjacent couches), bryan (best described as: the lovable competitive younger brother), and i make up a pretty interesting think tank. we tend to discuss all sorts of topics ranging from movie ideas, travel plans, philosophy, to religion. we all share a common fear of waking up one day and being trapped in the typical 9-5, with two kids, a mediocre marriage, and maybe some cats.
this concern fueled my journey to better understand marriage and relationships.
don't get me wrong, i get it.
man loves woman, man proposes to woman, man and woman get married... then what?
some people may say, "they'll live happily ever after," some statisticians say, "50% of them will be end up in divorce," and i say, "they'll change."
(i'm right)
the trick is to love the person you know and expect this person to change, because they will. love can't be forced, so don't force it. it will thrive if it's supposed to and it will fail if it has to, either way i don't think marriage can make two people invincible to falling out of love. marriage, if anything, may be the biggest deterrent to honestly evaluating a relationship that has failed. it saddens me to think that there are couples out there that remain married regardless of their struggles.
relationships may result in pure happiness or complete heartache and with each marriage there is always a possibility of failure/divorce. marriage makes people think that they're supposed to be together forever, which in some cases is true.
however, when a relationship fails there are two choices:
1) maintain the marriage and suffer through a loveless relationship
2) divorce and move on
i guess this is where i bring it all together and offer a moral of the story, so here it is:
two people that are in love will be in love regardless of if they're married or not.
two people may be married, even if they're not in love.
and
marriage is flawed because forever is a long time and people will change.
*i battled the idea of including "probably" in the introductory sentence. at first, it was omitted, then i added it, then it was deleted. i can't be certain about my future, so "probably" was a final edit that may cover my ass if/when i ever get married.
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
you already know.bombay bicycle club
this song makes me think of the dichotomy of love.
good friends often have potential of being something more, but they tend to restrain from acting on such feelings. in the same regard, longtime loves may hit a rough patch that is the beginning of the end.
bombay bicycle club wrote a beautiful song with simplistic, but thoughtful lyrics. my perspective on relationships is ever changing and when i listen to you already know i can't help but consider my previous infatuations and relationship hardships.
the band gained critical acclaim and support when they were entered into virgin mobile's "road to v" competition on channel 4, in london. they ended up winning the nationally televised competition and made some waves in the european music industry with two very successful eps. in 2008, the band graduated from college and were finally able to focus their attention on their music. i have yet to listen to their 2009 album, i had the blues but i shook them loose, but if it's anything like their eps and singles... i'm sure i'll be impressed.
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